Because we get what we focus on! 
Whenever we say "I want to stop procrastinating" our brain has to first build a picture of what we DON'T want - being unproductive - in order not to do it. So it's good to build a picture of what we're working towards, rather than building a picture of what we don't want.
               Two examples:

•       Use "I have ideas for a new career" rather than "I don't want to be stuck in the same job forever"
•       Use "I want to create an interesting new hobby " rather than "I don't like being on screen time so much"

"The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, & have found their way out of the depths.  These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, & an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern.  Beautiful people do not just happen."      Elisabeth Kubler Ross

Living an authentic, vibrant and meaningful life is more than fun, it can be thrilling! My life coaching mission & work is all about helping you smoothly create & take your own courageous path!  If you would like help finding this new direction, please feel free to join me in my office or on the phone for a coaching conversation. (918) 391-2540    All my best, Melissa

Many current studies prove that gratitude makes us happier & healthier!  Like any emotion, gratitude can't be forced but we CAN cultivate our thoughts so that gratitude is more likely to arise.  Practicing gratitude each day helps create a HABIT and once it is a habit, it will become a positive part of who we are!
 
Challenge:  Take one minute each day to write down three things you are grateful for and watch how this HABIT impacts your life in a positive way!

First identify the “most” important action.  
Then notice: What gets in the way, is our “feeling” 
We choose to do the things we “feel” like doing – this gets us in trouble!!

Good News! We can train ourselves to do what we need to do vs. what we feel like doing. 
1st – Notice, and then shift from what we feel like doing, to noticing what we need to do
2nd – Lead with the body – our body is more controllable than our mind
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Ex. “just show up” exercise – the first step to exercise is to just dress up, “show up” and then do what you want. Show up and take the very smallest steps that offer very little resistance.
*You are building momentum that will lead to creating a Habit.